Dad died 4 years ago...can't talk about him..?

Because you miss him and it isnt fair you lost him you wanted more time with him its been 2 years since i lost my dad and i still want him back and i have the same scenario of mum talking about him and sometimes she cries....mums have the right to do that ...hun she lost her best friend,her lover and the fathr of her children he was her life it isnt about pity its what happened and we all deal with it in different ways. I have a tear in my eye even as i type this about my dad .....But you know what he was my dad and i was proud of him and by foccusing on the positives he bought to you and the family it can help....I would imagine you are a good person with good morals....who taught you those morals and good behaviours? Your parents and you need to give credit to where credit is due because one day you are going to p those morals on to your own children and you will see them in your siblings children as well....be proud of it, be proud of who you are because your dad had a big hand in that. And as for mom maybe she needs some help in dealing with some stuff , my suggestion would be family counselling where you can openly discuss what hurts you and you just might be surprised when it comes to your moms turn and she says her feelings and maybe you will look at things in a different light. Smile you have a family and while your dad may not be there with you he will come through in you and your family....best of luck and dont think what i say will be easy its time that makes things easier